You can’t believe in magic. But occasionally, you can make it.

The statistics say…

So, you have a consumer internet idea you think could be big. The statistics say you’re are almost surely wrong. There is a 95 % chance you will fail for one of the following five reasons:
a) your product idea is shitty;
b) your market is small;
c) your execution or team is weak;
d) you are undercapitalized;
or e) your growth strategy belies a belief in magic.


4. “When they do badly at something, [Japanese, Koreans, etc.] respond by working harder at it.”
5. “Persistence in the face of failure is very much part of the Asian tradition of self-improvement. And [people in those countries] are accustomed to criticism in the service of self-improvement in situations where Westerners avoid it or resent it.”
These are wildly ambitious women. These are aggressive women. These are boss women. These are the people who wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and growl before they hit the street.
In other words, feedback is useful because it provides insight about the people we want to reach, influence and engage. With that reframing, women can filter which feedback they need to incorporate to achieve their aims, without the taxing emotional highs and lows.

I’ve found that the fundamental shift for women happens when we internalize the fact that all substantive work brings both praise and criticism.

Many women carry the unconscious belief that good work will be met mostly — if not exclusively — with praise. Yet in our careers, the terrain is very different: Distinctive work, innovative thinking and controversial decisions garner supporters and critics, especially for women.

We need to retrain our minds to expect and accept this.

Games are all about taking risks. But if you take too many risks, you always lose.

In the 1950s classic chess book, “Think Like a Grandmaster” Alexander Kotov’s first technique is to: “List all the candidate moves first.”

In other words, list all the options that can happen. Don’t go deeply down ANY OF THEM. Then start to look slightly deeper down each one and see which options you can quickly eliminate.

This saves you mental energy and time. This one technique raises your IQ.

It turns out, some 30 years later, this is how chess computers are programmed. The best chess computers are now solidly better than humans. The first thing a chess program does when looking at position: It lists the candidate moves.

Just play what is in front of you. Improve incrementally and be PATIENT. You will have your chance to win many times. But you will lose ALL of your chances if you waste them.

If you love someone or something, you will have many many opportunities to kiss. If one kiss isn’t perfect, then be 5% better in how you treat that person, in how you surprise, in how you learn, in how you study, and the next kiss will be love.

Better to love than to be bitter, than to think you’re unlucky, than to not be prepared, then to not delight the people around you.